Samantha Postman  ·  A new book
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Problem people are the biggest roadblock to success, at work and in life. Sometimes that problem person is you.

REFRAME hands you proven mental models to sidestep problem people, skip pain, and fast-track the life you want. Get past them, and you're golden.

REFRAME by Samantha Postman — book cover

Sound familiar?

You know exactly who they are.

  • The boss or coworker who drains you before 9 a.m.
  • The family dinner you're already dreading.
  • The person who spills their mess on your day, and somehow it ends up on your kids.
  • And the one you can't walk away from: the person in the mirror who keeps getting in your way.

Most people never get the life they want. Not because they didn't try hard enough, but because nobody taught them how to see these people, and themselves, differently.

"Where I come from, you either end up dead or dead inside."

Born to a teen mom, raised in a broken home with five different stepfathers, I learned early that the rules of survival change fast.

So I built mental models of my own. To sidestep problem people. To skip pain I didn't have to feel. To get out of my own way.

From welfare kid to 5x founder, a 32-year love marriage, and three married kids who call to say they love me. These frameworks are the reason.

It took me 40 years to build them. You get them in one book.

What it looks like

On a flight home at Christmas, I sat beside a twenty-year-old who was dreading the family waiting for him.

First I told him it took courage to go home at all. Then I gave him two tools: the SAM Method, to get through dinner without drowning, and one-sided tape, so the toxic energy wouldn't stick.

By the end of the flight, he had tools instead of dread. That's what this book does.

What's inside

Tools with names you'll remember when you need them.

Twenty-one short chapters. Each one names a pattern, shows you the shift, and tells you what to do next.

The Porcupine ParadoxSoft doesn't change the quills. Stay out of the launch zone. And the twist: the quills you launch to protect yourself are what keep everyone away.
The Paint Can ParadoxThe people who spill the most color are often the ones with the least control over their own.
The Tape ParadoxThe virtue that makes you powerfully empathetic is the same virtue that makes you powerfully vulnerable.
The SAM MethodA five-minute way through time with the people who drain you, without letting it stick.
The Hurdle ParadoxThe obstacle you're trying to avoid is the qualifying round for the life you want.
The Identifier ParadoxThe intelligence to see the problem becomes the excuse to never solve it.

Every chapter ends in Mirror Mode, where I turn the tool on myself first, before I ever turn it on you. Because the person you most need to overcome is looking at you in the mirror.

About the author

Samantha Postman

"Samantha's sharp insights, provocative questions, and blunt honesty forced us to think more clearly for impactful results."

— Steven Puri, founder of The Sukha Co., former studio VP, 20th Century Fox & DreamWorks (Braveheart, Die Hard)

"You are full spectrum BRILLIANT!"

— Michael Gelb, author of How to Think Like Leonardo da Vinci

Managing partner of a commercial crop farm, 5x founder, tax professional, photographer, and seminary graduate — sometimes in the same decade. Went from welfare to the good life. Now writing the book she wishes someone had handed her at sixteen.

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Your first reframe

One-sided tape

When you're hurting, you're double-sided tape. Everything sticks. Before your next conversation with someone who drains you, switch to one-sided tape: smooth side out, so their negativity slides right off; sticky side in, so you still feel.

Try it once this week, and notice what doesn't stick.

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